Everyone goes their own way when it comes to choosing their career path. Some people work in harsh conditions, while others work in a nice recliner in an air conditioned office. These jobs are considered normal by our standards. On the flip side of employment is another legal and sometimes not-so-legal profession of the adult industry. The whole adult business has a stigma attached to it, and the workers feel the brunt of this stigma. These individuals “work” as well, and there are certain questions that they do not like to be asked in any instance. Would you like to know something about this profession and the questions that anger these guys and gals? Take a look at what they have to put up with.
Do Adult Workers Hate Themselves?
The whole stigma of the adult industry as a whole is demeaning and degrading in the minds of a lot of individuals. These individuals who come from different backgrounds believe that people who work in the adult industry have some type of self-esteem issues and that they hate themselves since they have such a “dirty” job as some would put it.
There could not be too much hatred of self in this industry. Some of these ladies and gentlemen work in this industry because of the fast money that can be made. Why sit at a chair or work yourself to the bone while you can have fun at what comes natural and get money to pay your bills or do other things like save up for school? This is more like self-preservation more than hate.
How Much Do You Charge?
Some people may not believe this, but people who work in the adult industry do not like to be asked about “how much” do they charge. Those individuals who work on the illegal side of the adult business especially do not like to be asked this type of question.
According to an adult worker named Pinky, asking how much someone is worth often turns into something else. One person may ask a performer to do certain things and how much they would like to charge a customer, and then when the performer does one thing, they suddenly expect a myriad of other things as well.
The obvious answer to a question like this is something that relates to the norms of nearly any particular society. A person’s background has a tremendous bearing on views about sexual relationships and love. There has been a paradigm shift in society throughout the passing of time, but some people still hold on to their beliefs that these relationships are a taboo.
Those who work in the adult industry would rather not be stigmatized and they do not like to answer questions about something that they do for a living. Some workers, such as one adult performer named Mercedes, said that it is just something that you do and that the job she does involves an act that is quite common, after all.
What Are the Misconceptions?
This depends on who you ask. What seems like taboo to one person may seem like a normality to someone in the adult industry. Many in the adult entertainment industry experience the same types of treatment and get the same backlash from society when it comes to their choice of job.
One of the things that remain a misconception amongst some people is that doing the nasty is, well, nasty. The people in the industry obviously do not see this as being nasty, and hence they are in the business because they like to do this type of job. Another misconception is that they are low down and seen as less of a human being because of their profession.
Do You Enjoy Doing the Nasty?
A performer or other type of worker would normally be offended at this type of question as this is a no-brainer. These guys and gals would more than likely follow the philosophies of Epicurus no doubt. Would a person generally do something that they would enjoy? The answer is yes.
There are more than just what people see on the surface when it comes to being an adult performer. Some of the ladies of leisure who work on the legal side of the world’s oldest profession either love to entertain people or if you delve deeper you will notice that they are just trying to make money.
Why Do Some Workers Get Strange Gifts?
Some clients get attached to the very people who service them. They develop a kind of liking towards their service providers and even develop a kind of fondness for some of the individuals. You usually give gifts to people that you have some sort of relationships with.
According to an escort named Audrey, she received an 18th century drawing from a client. She exclaims: “When I moved flats, a client turned up with the most horrible print. It’s like one of those old Punch cartoons of this Victorian bloke leering round the corner at two women in petticoats and it’s just hideously rendered. It’s still in its original packaging. I never put it up because it was too repulsive for me to even consider. He never mentioned it again. It’s still got the sticker from the shop it’s from on Charing Cross Road.”
What Makes You Want to Do This?
This goes back to the whole societal norms thing when it comes to doing the nasty. A lot of people see the “nasty” as a demoralizing activity when it is done outside of marriage and that people who do this for a living have been through some type of traumatic experience and were forced into getting into this lifestyle.
The truth is that some people like to do this type of work and are even proud of the work that they do. They can take being shunned by society and this is one of the primary reasons why people enter the adult arena.
Are the Men Losers?
There may, in fact, be some guys in some of the aspects of the adult-oriented industry such as streetwalking who may fit this category. This is another misconception when it comes to people who engage in the services of someone who works in the adult industry. The fact of the matter is, that it does not matter if the guy is a “loser” or not.
Why is this so? Because the provider’s job is to do just that, a job. There are many women in the adult film world who say that the men they perform with are great guys and that the guys are doing a job well when they perform.
Do You “Party” All the Time?
It is natural to some people to assume adult workers do nothing but roll in the hay all day and night without any regard or consequences. Some people forget about the main goal of those who work in this type of industry, and that is, making a living by making money in this business.
One woman, “Italia,” who is an adult performer, expressed her displeasure of people “coming up to her talking about sex all of the time.” Another performer who did an interview with her named “Crystal Clear” said that doing adult films is “her job and career” and that having an outside life is separate from the working part.
Do You Remember a Particular Scene?
Adult stars, just like mainstream celebrities, have fans. They go through the same things as mainstream celebs do. They have fans that want to know about their personal relationships, families, and things of that nature. It is only natural for fans to asks about the movies that these stars have been in.
From the fan’s point of view, everything seems good and well on the set of any given movie. There is a different view of what is going on from the performers’ points of view according to a performer named Sara. She says that she does not remember scenes because it is all just work.
Are You Attracted to the Guys That You Work With?
This is a question that gets asked a lot of performers and anyone who works in this type of field. This could actually be a yes or no answer depending on who you ask. Fans and clients alike have some liking towards their prospective performers/workers, but there may or may not be an attraction from the performer/workers point of view.
According to Kali, who is an adult actress, there is no attraction between performers because it is just a job. Some performers are actually married to other performers or have developed relationships in the business. This also happens with escorts as well. Do you all remember the movie Pretty Woman?
What is Your Real Name?
The fan or client aspect can go a little too far sometimes. People like to get caught up in the fantasy of their favorite guy or girl. They will want to know things about their “fantasy.” A lot of these ladies and gentlemen who roll in the field for a living get this question and they certainly do not like this type of question for various reasons.
The main reason why escorts or adult actors/actresses do not like their names to be revealed is because of harassment by people or trolls as they are called on the internet. Some people will release the real names of a performer or escort who have since left the business and they will be discovered by a current employer and then get fired. This has happened to several women over the past few decades.
Do You Think You’ll Ever Get a Real Job?
This is another question that comes up when people deal with adult workers. This is a question that makes a lot of the adult workers peeved. Does everyone see a common theme here in this article so far? You probably do because it is prevalent. These performers are just not doing what they do or “giving it up” for just fun and games.
These workers do what they do because it is a job! According to performer Sam 38g, the adult industry is a business. Sam 38g also says that it is a nine to five job which includes breaks just like any other job. She says some shoots are usually between two and eight hours long.
Do You Have Any Code Words for “More” Thrills?
When it comes to exotic dancers, a guy sits there and watches the lady do some of the most athletic antics on stage. They do wonderful things on the dancing pole and they have other flexible talents that make their viewers and fans go crazy. The eye is not satisfied with seeing, and so someone might ask if there is “more” if you catch the drift.
Some guys believe that there is some type of code word or password that allows for them to have a possible “date” with their performer. They have other things on their mind besides just shooting the breeze. Adult workers are turned off by these types of questions.
You Really Don’t Seem Like the Stripper Type
This is obviously the weirdest question to tell to someone who is in the field of erotic dancing. There is an underlying theme to this. You would have to ask yourself, why would someone say something like this? Sam 38g, who is an adult actress, has the answer to why someone would ask a question like this and a person’s intentions about this.
Sam 38g says that this happens on the set of films also. Directors start to asks you and say things of a personal nature. She says the reason is simple, they want some of the action. Simple enough.
How Much Do You Make a Night?
When someone asks “so how much money do you make here on a typical night,” are they doing this out of curiosity or for some other reason? This could be viewed in two ways. Some guys or gals are just generally curious about how much someone makes. Would a person feel comfortable at any other type of job being asked, “how much do you make?” This type of question may make someone feel uneasy, and that would go for any occupation that a person is in.
Some people asks these exotic dancers questions so that they can get to know them. Some ladies would be more than happy for a customer to donate to the cause than ask about how much they make a night.
Could I Wait Outside for You to Get Your Number Since You Cannot Give It to Me at Work?
Some guys want their favorite exotic dancer’s phone numbers. They cannot get the number of the dancer while they are doing their exotic dancing number in front of their loyal admirers, and they probably cannot get their number in between dancing routines. The only plausible thing to do is to wait outside for the exotic dancer and then try to get her number.
It is obvious that anyone would be turned off by this. Hitting on someone at work is one thing, but waiting outside to get their number makes these ladies feel uncomfortable. Remember, there are a lot of people who want to hit on exotic dancers as well.
Why Not Get Another Job If You Don’t Like This Job?
Many people share their bad times with others when it comes to their particular line of employment. Some ladies who do exotic dancing may express their feelings on their break to someone, a patron more than likely, about their job. It is only natural for that patron or customer to say something along the line of “why don’t you just get another job?”
These exotic dancers do a lot of physical activity on stage and it takes a lot to do some of the stunts that they practice. Although there are countless minutes spent on doing these moves, the money is still good in many cases.
Do You Perform in Adult Work Because of the Easy Money?
A question like this goes back to the labeling of what society deems as immoral. Just because you do certain things to make money does not necessarily make it easy. There is a lot of work to be done on the part of the performer in any type of adult work.
Exotic dancers put in the time to practice routines on stage. They wear heels and do all types of physical activity on stage for a few hours. In the adult film arena, you have photographers who take all sorts of pictures which may range from 200 to 400 pictures in just one shoot. Easy is not an option when it comes to adult work.
A Client Gives the Gift of the Good Book
There are some patrons or clients who like to have a good laugh or may be experiencing some type of dissonance when it comes to dealing with an adult worker. An exotic worker received a New Testament Bible from a client. The intention was probably more fetish related more than anything.
A lot of people have weird fantasies as well and so the whole fetish thing is all a part of the fantasy thing. The client loves to live in the moment, and remember, to quote Rudy Ray Moore, “Everybody kneeling ain’t praying.”